How to be a True Friend

I’ve had been in many situations where I’ve had to be the “bad guy.” I am the one that has to tell my good friend, “Hey it is time to get out of the relationship you are in.” I am not trying to brag, but I have a really good instinct when it comes to knowing who is the best significant other for my friend/friends. I have had friends that have been in some really bad relationships. In these relationships they are just constantly brought down, and they are abused verbally. Verbal abuse can be just as bad as physical abuse. I have seen firsthand what verbal abuse has done to my friends, and I do not like it. It takes a woman a long time to gain her confidence back after being verbally abused.

One of my friends was in a relationship for almost five years, and the whole time she was being verbally abused. One day I finally told her to just leave; I had seen her get hurt too many times, and it was time I said something about it. I title this post “How to be a true friend” because sometimes as a friend you are put in a position where you have to decide, Do I risk my best friend being mad at me? Or do I shut my mouth and keep letting them get hurt?

I think being a true friend means doing what is best for your friend wether they like it or not. If you truly care about your friend, you will take the risk of them being mad at you, rather than sitting back and letting them get hurt over and over again. What would you do in a situation like this? Have you ever been in a similar situation? Why do individuals get so blinded when they are in a relationship?

2 thoughts on “How to be a True Friend

  1. I totally support you in this! I feel like I have to be the bad guy sometimes too when it comes to stuff like this. And often my friend would get mad at me because I was saying things that they didn’t want to hear. You’re definitely a good friend for watching out for them and telling them what they need to hear, not what they want to hear.


  2. I think it is a great thing that you were looking out for your friend. I would do that, too. Even if they don’t break it off, we can always pray for their circumstances. I have been (a long time in the past) in relationships that did nothing but bring me stress! It is so not worth it. God has given us each other for accountability. It’s not always easy, but we need each other.


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